This is a book for people who need help recovering from a devastating break-up, but even more important, it's a book for people who are ready to grow, to work on overcoming your childhood issues, for taking off the masks you've worn and being truly happy with the real you. You could get a lot out of this book even if you're not ready to grow, but the true beauty of it is when you are, especially if you can combine it with another book, or a support group, or therapy. I think reviewing the lessons learned by others along with the wisdom found here was really key for me.
This is one of those situations where a topic will mean practically nothing to you until the time is right. I really read this book cover-to-cover several times, but it's only recently that I feel like I've completed it. There were chapters I'd read and go "gee, ya think?", and then six months later the same chapter would be exactly what I needed to hear right then.I have (and will continue to have) setbacks from time to time, but I think the authors put it best:
Becoming a healthy person emotionally is like climbing a slide in the playground. You progress up so far, then lose your grip and slide back down. Then the next time you are able to climb to a higher point. Although each relationship that ends may put you back down the slide, when you climb again, you know how to climb higher and become more healthy.